I say this a lot and I will say it again. My kids have completely overhauled my life. It seems that they took one long look at my life’s priority list and chuckled. Then made it their mission to sift through the list, weeding out the baggage and leaving only the things that really matter.
Thank you, babies.
Besides that, I often sense God speaking to me through my children. Life altering lessons neatly packaged and delivered through my tots.
My firstborn is a preschooler. She is on a roll as she tries to exercise her independence. Pushing limits and trying to control us, her parents.
Yet God in His infinite wisdom chooses to use her to speak to me. Here are five lessons I have gleaned from her character.
- Her Persistence
When my daughter wants something, anything really, she knows how to get on our nerves by crying incessantly. Never mind that she could be throwing a hissy fit for the most outrageous reason. Like when she wants to run off to school without a jumper on a rainy chilly morning.
I have often found myself giving in to her demands just because I can’t stand another second of her shrieks.
Turns out that God doesn’t mind our hissy fits as we pray. It doesnt irk him when we pester Him with our requests. He relishes stubborn faith that refuses to walk away empty-handed.
Luke 18:1-8 details the parable of the persistent widow and the judge who neither feared God nor cared about men. The widow did not relent. She drove the judge up the wall until he granted her request.
Jesus summed up this parable by giving an assurance that persistence in our prayers will yield answers.
And so I have learned not to throw in the towel too fast. To be more persistent in my prayers because God honors fervent prayers.
“The effective fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much” James 5:16 (NKJV)
2. I Am Miserable When She Refuses to Feed
My daughter is generally a picky eater; there are days she will barely touch her food. This has a way of frustrating me to the core; I would do anything to have her take her meals.
On the days she decides to torture me by refusing to feed, I worry about her a lot. Will she grow well? Is she more prone to illnesses?
This internal turmoil makes me reflect on my spiritual feeding habits. How often do I frustrate my heavenly father by walking around with a starved Spirit?
Does He worry the same way I do about my daughter?
Will she withstand temptations? Will she fall prey to false teachings?
“ But He answered and said, “It is written, ‘Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God.’ ” Mat 4:4.
I too need daily nourishment from Gods word and communion with Him through prayer. When I don’t feed my Spirit, I certainly displease my heavenly father.
3. She can be Fearless
A while ago, my daughter and I were taking a walk when a rat crossed our path. Oh, the adrenaline! I found myself far away from the ‘scene’ in an instant; only to later realize I had left my heroic child behind who stood there unruffled.
Needless to say, bugs and crawling insects give me the same effect.
I did a little research and found out that I could be suffering from Musophobia –fear of mice and rats and Entomophobia-Unrealistic fear of bugs and insects.
And as if I wasn’t feeling humiliated enough for ‘abandoning’ her in time of ‘crisis’, she told everyone who cared to listen about it.
Anyway, I will never forget that day. The day she outsmarted me in courage.
Children come with a clean slate and one of the virtues they exude is courage. Because they have not lived long enough to soak in life’s fears.
It can be scary trying to pursue your dreams when you have watched others fail in the same line. You already have the script rehashing in your head. You know exactly at what point the cookie will crumble.
You may be sensing God urging you to make a move alright but fear of failure has you frozen in your tracks. Because you have seen how ruthlessly life has pulled the rug out from under some folks who have gone before you.
But God would have us choose faith over fear.
In Mathew 14, Peter sees Jesus walking on water and his adventurous bulb lights up. He’s never seen anything like that before and he wants in. Jesus graciously urges him to join in. Peter manages to walk on water for a while but on seeing the boisterous wind, he starts sinking.
Just like Peter, fear holds us at ransom when we focus on our circumstances. We need to choose faith over fear and fix our eyes on the promise in God’s word.
4. She Keeps No Grudge
My daughter does not take my attempts to discipline her kindly. Yet I must nip in the bud some habits that she surprises me with.
So when I discipline her, she gets really hurt and sobs bitterly. She feels betrayed. Then she figures that she needs comfort from the shocking event in her life and runs to me for comfort.
That really speaks to me because I struggle to forget the ills done to me. The fact is that in life people will hurt you; some won’t even realize they did.
Yet Jesus while teaching His disciples to pray warns that if we do not forgive others we should not expect God to forgive us.
“But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” Mat 6:15
5. She gives Me a Glimpse of the Fathers Love
Words fail my attempt to explain just how much I love this child. To me, it’s never what I can do for her but I ask myself what I cannot do for the little girl.
“As a father pities his children, so the Lord pities those who fear Him.” Ps 103:13
The thought that my heavenly father loves me more than I could ever love my child just makes my faith soar.
It makes me realize that I am in a good place, the safest place, I am the apple of God’s eye.
We Must Become Like Little Children
In Conclusion, we have so much to learn from children.
“Assuredly I say to you unless you are converted and become as little children, you will by no means enter the kingdom of heaven.” Mat 18: 3
I am glad that God is using my daughter to speak to me. Look, she even inspired me to start this blog!